If there is one question I hate, it is this:
What do you do?
Should it really matter what I do? I don’t care about what you do… I never ask.
The question indicates that I need validation. If what I do is satisfactory to the person asking, then I get given the green light. If not.. well forever be judged.
Have you realised that most answers are variations of the same damn thing? Besides… who cares if you’re a student, accountant or CEO of whatever. Yay
This type of conversation starter is the most simplest open-ended question. The receiver has an auto response and… the conversation continues. Risk free and comfortable. That’s probably why 99% of the population ask it.
My typical first conversation goes like this:
So… What do you do?
– I cycle / play guitar / travel / chill on the beach / chill anywhere / sail / snorkle / hike.. And you?
As I start to list what I do my questioner starts to look slightly displeased with my answer. Sadly I know that you’re trying to ask me one of the following questions:
How much do you earn? Where do you work? What financial position are you in?
Are you richer than me? Is my status higher? ARE YOU WORTH MY TIME?
I do this all the time. And continue without revealing my title. Eventually the questioner begins to tell me about their passions and hobbies.
It erks me when people ask me this. And everyone does. I understand why, its autoconvo but I’m not like everyone else. I love flare.
Tell me about your passion, what excites you and what you love. I don’t care about title, I don’t care where you studied or lived
I care about getting to know you
Think of this shift as changing a noun into a verb. Instead of giving people a title (i.e., a box to put you in), let them know what you enjoy doing—what you’re passionate about—and then discover what they enjoy. The conversation will morph into something far more interesting, and you’ll learn a lot more about each other than your silly job titles. – Joshua Fields Millburn & Ryan Nicodemus